Man In The Box
QIC
DeliveranceAO
The CombinePAX
- Buttermaker
- Dandelion
- Deliverance
- Fixed Gear
- Lord Of The Dance
- Malört
- McFeely
- Nelly
- Restore
- Rossy
- Shiplap
- Time Machine
- Webelos
Workout
Warm-o-rama
SSH
Imperial Walkers
Hillbilly Walkers
Daisey Pickers
Old Man Stretch Rossy
Thang
45/15
Merkins
Squats
Shoulder Taps
Reverse Lunges
45-second Guardian Run
45/15
Burpees
Plank Jacks
Jump Squats
Mountain Climbers
45-second Guardian Run
45/15
Hand Release Merkins
Bonnie Blairs
Peter Parkers
American Hammers
45-second Guardian Run
45/15
Mike Tysons
Flutter Kicks
Big Boys
Freddie Mercurys
45-second Guardian Run
Mary
Light stretch, Chaturanga into downward dog
COT
Before the workout we read/watched Tony Porter’s A Call to Men. One moment that stuck with me was Porter talking about his five-year-old son coming to him crying. He realized that he treated his son differently than his daughter and told this five-year-old boy to get himself together and come back when he could talk to him “like a man.”
What struck me wasn’t that Porter had figured everything out. It was his ability years later to look at himself and ask, “Why did I do that?”
I had a couple of those moments this weekend.
I took a bike ride with my partner’s five-year-old and learned she’d never been on a bike ride with her father. Later we cooked together. She smashed and seasoned the tofu and cut up avocado and jumped right into it. I learned she’d never cooked with her father either.
Those were moments when I felt pretty good about the kind of man I was being.
Then about 24 hours later, I had a much harder conversation. Someone pointed out that I’d done a lot of these same things in a previous relationship and essentially asked me, “How do I know that next year you won’t be talking about me the way you’re talking about someone from your past?”
That landed because I could see a pattern in myself. I’m really good at bringing people in. I love sharing my life, my family and my experiences with someone. But maybe I’ve sometimes been better at bringing people into my life than understanding what it takes to build something that lasts.
That’s somewhere I need to grow.
We spent 30 minutes doing physically hard things. But maybe another kind of strength is being able to look at yourself without immediately defending yourself.
So we went around the circle with one question:
Where in your life do you know you still need to grow?
Nobody had to solve it. Just name it.
Because “leave no man where you find him” should probably include ourselves.