Half Way Point
QIC
DeliveranceAO
The NunneryPAX
- Al Bundy
- Bergundy
- Buttermaker
- Deliverance
- Dos
- Fixed Gear
- Gold
- Old Style
- Padawan
- Shingle
- Snork
- Time Machine
- Webelos
Workout
Warm-o-rama
SSH
Don Quixotes
Seal claps / overheads
Abe Vigodas
Imperial walkers
Hillbilly walkers
Rossys
10 deadlifts
10 squats
10 presses
Thang
Rifle carry coupon around the Priory loop. When someone needs a rest, the whole group stops.
10 Archer Merkins x2
20 Gargoyles
slow coupon curls while we go around the circle
“What was your New Year’s resolution or goal back in January?”
one-arm rows X10
durkun x20
Lunges while each person says how their resolution is going
Finish rifle carry back to AO
AMISH WOBBLE – Forward lunge, Backward lunge, Blockee x15
AROUND THE WORLDS x20
HILLBILLY OVERHEAD – raise coupon and do 2 hillbilly walkers then an overhead x10
MOUNTAIN MAN MERKIN x20 One merkin then bring right knee to heart, left knee to right chest and one more merkin
Mary
25x hammers
20 big boys
old man stretch
COT
At book club, after reading Burgundy’s brother’s book, we talked about inheritance.
And I’ve been thinking a lot about that word.
Not just inheritance as money or property, but inheritance as behavior. Patterns. Reactions. The way we love people. The way we handle conflict. The way we repair damage. The things we pass down without even realizing we’re passing them down.
Over the last few weeks, I’ve been asking myself:
What do I want to pass on to my kids?
What do I see them doing that makes sense?
And what do I see them doing that worries me?
This past year, I’ve had some hard moments with my oldest child because I started seeing behaviors that reminded me of painful parts of my marriage. And when someone you love that much starts mirroring behavior connected to someone who hurt you, it can be really hard to separate those feelings. It can be hard to respond to your child as your child, and not through the lens of old pain.
But I’ve also had to look at myself.
In one of my last relationships, I saw myself repeating patterns too. I was fixing. Repairing. Abandoning parts of myself to keep something going that ultimately was not working for me, and was not working for my kids.
And that’s the hard part of parenting and relationships. You start to ask:
What have I given them?
What am I still giving them?
And how do I correct the things I know could hurt them later?
The truth is, we may have to accept that all we can do is our best with the tools we have right now. We have to understand that we are capable of doing harm, even when we do not intend to. And our children are also capable of doing harm, because they are human too.
So maybe the work is not pretending we will never hurt anyone.
Maybe the work is learning how to repair.
How to say:
I made this mistake.
I do not want you to carry this pattern.
I do not want you to repeat this if you can avoid it.
But if you do make the mistake, learn from it. Listen to the person you hurt. Understand the person you hurt. Do the repair work.
Back on January 7 at The Donut Shop, one of my goals was to be better. I did not want these patterns to keep following me. And I did not want them to keep following my kids.
That is still the work.
Today, I get better.
Tomorrow, I get better.
And hopefully, the inheritance I pass on is not perfection.
Hopefully, it is the willingness to see myself clearly, to own my mistakes, to repair what I can, and to keep becoming a better man.