Understand before fixing
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DeliveranceAO
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Warm-o-rama
SSH / Rossy / Old man / 20 merkins
Thang
3.34 mile ruck around Forest Park and River Forest. Classic route. 4 stops for 20 weighted squats and 20 merkins
Announcements: Chili Cook off is Saturday, lunch and dinner next week and book club books are at the library.
COT
This week my oldest told me she wants to stop going to therapy every week. As a parent, that hit hard, because part of me wants to step in, explain, persuade, fix. I believe therapy has been good for her, and I want what is best.
But the truth is, there are moments where the job is not to correct, the job is to listen. When someone brings you something tender, what they need first is emotional safety, not judgment. There are times you need to understand before you try to fix.
That is part of why we do this. Face down in asphalt covered in salt, doing push ups in the dark, in the cold, we are not out here to shame ourselves into being better. We are out here to understand ourselves. To learn what we reach for when it is uncomfortable, to practice staying present, to build the kind of steady that does not panic and does not control.
So this week, this month, this year, my encouragement is this. With your kids, hold off on the fixing. Ask one more question. Listen one minute longer. Trust that you have taught them they have power, and they can make decisions. And trust this too, they can always go back when they are ready.
Just like we come out here in the morning to have our own time and space, to explore who we are and push ourselves to be different and to be better, our kids need their own time and space too. We can stay close, stay steady, and keep the door open.